When You're Feeling Sad or Upset Remember These 6 Points

We can’t help it, we’re human, we have emotions and many times we are faced with situations that maybe beyond our control and we may feel sad for example the loss of a loved one, or a failed relationship, been hurt by someone we love etc. This is all part of life. Nothing is wrong with feeling sad and it’s not a sign of weakness either it’s a sign that you are human. Generally sadness affects all of us at some point in our lives, at both behavioral and physiological levels. Outward behaviors such as crying, sobbing, and temporary social isolation are common characteristics of sadness. While feeling sad for a certain period of time isn’t particularly harmful but what if sadness is prolonged then it maybe a cause for concern. So for my blog today I have listed six points to remember when you’re feeling sad.


Sadness is considered to be one of the basic human emotions and it is a natural response to situations involving psychological, emotional, and/or physical pain. Sad feelings often quickly diminish after individuals resolve or come to terms with upsetting experiences. Sadness is often linked with unfavorable circumstances, however, it is not always perceived in a negative light. While sadness can lead to withdrawal from other people or a loss of interest in certain activities, it can also prompt pleasure-seeking behaviors. In fact, positive personality traits such as alertness, thoughtfulness, and resilience can be fostered through sad experiences.

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6 Points To Remember When You’re Feeling Sad

  1. Pain is part of growing – Pain is part of growing. Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. This is a good thing because many times we won’t move forward unless certain circumstances forces us to. When times are tough, always remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it t taught you.
  2. Everything in life is temporary – Emotions, thoughts, people and scenery. Do not get attached, just flow with it.” The only thing that’s truly permanent in this life is change. Things already changed in the few moments it took you read this sentence. From the time, to the clouds outside and perhaps even your mood.
  3. Worrying and complaining changes nothing – So, if you keep your mind looping on self-criticism, worries, and how nothing is working out for you, your mind will more easily find that part of your brain and will quickly assist you in thinking those same thoughts again. This shapes your mind into greater reactivity, making you more vulnerable to anxiety. 
  4. Your scars are symbols of your strength – Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars life has left you with. A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward.
  5. Every little struggle is a step forward – Every struggle no matter how small is a step forward In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it.
  6. Other people’s negativity is not your problem – Sometimes you may genuinely be in a situation when, due to no apparent fault of yours, the other person is negative, indifferent, a little too critical, a bit too insensitive and so forth. If you know how to deal with such people and tackle situations like these, your state of inner joy and peace will remain unaffected.

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We Can Sense Negative Energy In Others

I’m sure a lot of you saw the headline in my post and immediately associated sensing negative ENERGY with PSYCHIC energy. Then this thought came to your mind: No one can sense negative energy or positive energy, what are you talking about?. Everyday I meet lovely people, either in person, social media or on different platforms from various walks of life. I was placed in the top 10 most viewed writers in Psychiatry last December, 2019 a title that I’m very proud of. I love being able to use what I have learned to help others.

Today’s blog post is about the ability to pick up negative energy from persons with negative or toxic personalities. Negative energy is toxic and can drain you both mentally and physically. Have you ever been around someone whose conversations are mostly negative? Every time you speak with them or are around them you either feel depressed, down or sad. You may not have sensed that this person is carrying around negative energy but somehow when you are with them you don’t feel comfortable at all. This is the kind of energy senses I am speaking about, although some people feel it more than others sometimes even immediately after coming in contact with these people so I have gathered a list to help them.

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Stay Away From Negative People.

I always advise people to keep away from negative people, as they are likely to give off negative energy in the way they talk to you, the way they treat you, and the way they behave towards you. Negative people can drain you both mentally and physically. Some people have the ability to sense others energy in others, whether it’s negative or positive energy sometimes they are unable to tune out and needs assistance to be able to find balance.

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6 Signs You’re Energy Sensitive:

Scientists have long been skeptical about the subject, but it seems the first evidence of the perception of good and bad energy is slowly emerging. The study of human chemosignaling is a relatively new field and there is much we still don’t know.

You are energy sensitive if you:

1. Have deep empathy for others: 

You can often spot the most energy sensitive person in the room when there is someone around who is hurt or upset.  Energy sensitive people are often the “first responders,” there to hold a hand, give a hug or lend a listening ear.  Energy sensitive people often feel other people’s emotions (and sometimes their physical pain too), and so they easily understand and empathize with people who are suffering. 

2. Emotional rollercoasters: 

Having a keen sense of vibrational energy often means that the high times feel very high but the low times feel very low.  Having some plans in place to help you raise your vibration can be very helpful,  especially during low times!

3. Addictions:  

Being energy sensitive means you “feel” a lot more than many people.  To avoid feeling low vibrational energy, these individuals may lean on substances like drugs or alcohol in order to numb out the pain of negative sensory input.  They may also have a proclivity for other types of addictions, like food, gambling or shopping.

4. Being an excellent judge of character:  

Energy sensitive people are often very aware of other people’s motivations, and many times they can “just tell when” someone is bad news.  This can be a very beneficial trait, as it makes one less likely to be conned or taken advantage of.

5. Possible introversion:  

Not all sensitive folks are introverts, but many often are.  It can be overwhelming to take on the emotions and feelings of other people, and so often energy sensitive people withdraw and seek alone time in order to stabilize. They are often likely to feel drained after prolonged social interactions.

6. Receiving signs:  

People who are sensitive to energy are much more likely to be aware of the signs the universe is sending to them.  They are more likely to find meaning in events and circumstances that most other people see as simply “coincidental.” 

As you can see, being energy sensitive is a bit of a double-edged sword.  Being attuned to vibrational energy allows one to have a deeper understanding of the universe, but it also can lead to a degree of overstimulation, and this can cause a variety of problems if left unaddressed.

If you think you may be energy sensitive, there are a number of things you can do harness the power of your gifts and cope with the struggles of sensitivity. Be mindful of the people you surround yourself with, and allow yourself to step away from toxic people, events and circumstances when you are feeling overwhelmed.  It is also very important to work toward self-acceptance, and learn how to love yourself and your gifts.

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Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Subtypes

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a condition where a person experiences a very traumatic event and their mental health thereafter suffers tremendously. These people have intense feelings of horror, fear and helplessness. A person with post-traumatic stress disorder can become so overwhelmed with intense feelings of despair that they may have trouble getting on with their normal life.

In most cases, a person with post-traumatic stress disorder was involved in or witnessed a traumatizing event. Some common examples of a traumatic experience include the death of a loved one, being diagnosed with a serious health condition and witnessing something traumatizing happening to another person. Traumatic events can include war, rape, molestation, a horrific car accident and being involved in a natural disaster like a flood or fire.

PTSD Subtypes:

  1. Victim-related trauma: People with this type of PTSD were either witnesses of a criminal attack, or they were the victims of the attack. That attack might involve physical violence, such as a beating or a fight, or it might involve sexual abuse, including rape. Robberies, carjackings, kidnappings, and terrorist attacks can also spark this form of trauma.
  2. Natural-disaster trauma:Earthquakes, tornadoes, hurricanes, and flooding are rarely caused by human intervention. They take place due to a natural process over which humans have very little control; however, these incidents can leave behind dozens if not thousands of victims. While the event unfolds, people may fear for their lives and the lives of the people they love. Survivors may have this form of PTSD.
  3. Survivor trauma: Some incidents that spark PTSD involve one victim and one antagonist, but sometimes, the event has more than one victim. And sometimes, only one person survives the incident. When that happens, people might have a very specific form of PTSD that is tied to the fact that they lived through the event while others did not.
  4. Perpetrator guilt: Most forms of PTSD involve the thoughts and feelings of a person who was helpless in the face of fear, but people in this subtype had at least something to do with the event. They may have planned it and participated in it, while realizing that they made a terrible mistake. Or they may have been caught up in the moment, and then realized the error days or months later.
  5. PTSD not otherwise specified: Some traumatic events come with ripples that can touch people hours or days after the issue has been resolved. These people might clean up after tornadoes, collect bodies from crime scenes, comfort rape victims, or listen to their loved ones discuss a traumatic event. These people were not direct witnesses, but they can be profoundly touched by the things they experience in the aftermath of the event.

Warnings of PTSD:

  • Common PTSD symptoms can emerge right after a traumatic occurrence. But in most cases, they typically start within six months following the experience.
  • PTSD can cause people to lose interest in things that they once found enjoyable.
  • Children with PTSD can worry about not living long enough to see adulthood.
  • Often people who struggle with PTSD suffer from depression, eating disorders and substance abuse.
  • Just witnessing or hearing about a traumatic experience of a close friend or family member can cause a person to develop PTSD.

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7 Proven Life Changing Benefits of Gratitude

Have you ever been through so many difficult times in your life and found it hard to focus on anything other than your problems? Or have you heard someone complain constantly about how their life sucks or nothing good ever happens to them, all they have is bad luck? Of course it can be hard to avoid feeling sorry for yourself, as you only focus on the negative aspects of the situation in your life. Today I’m going to clear this up for you and help you to understand why gratitude is so important for healthy functioning not only is it great for your mental health but the benefits are somewhat endless, practicing gratitude daily can change your life entirely.

Some people misunderstand the reason you should be grateful. When I discuss some simple ways to practice gratitude everyday to people I know personally you wouldn’t believe some of the responses I get. I will give an example, My advice: “Say thank you to the waitress at the restaurant and they serve you,” their response: Why? How does that benefit me? The only person benefiting from me doing this is the waitress. It is common nature for us to seek self interest.

If you exchange self-pity for gratitude, your mental state will change. I have been doing this for the past 2 – 3 years and the effects of gratitude is happiness and calmness have helped me tremendously its sort of a gift that takes time to develop. Check out my blog on 10 Ways to Feel Happier and Calmer.

Having trouble seeing the positive aspects of your life? Try using a gratitude journal and record every moment in your life that you are grateful for or you can do what I do I silently practice gratitude daily. I’m a deep thinker, journalling is not my thing, but there are so many things to be grateful for, you can start by looking around you for example, your family, friends or just be grateful to be healthy and alive. When you start with this thought everything will start to flow nicely. Believe me you will have slip ups but it’s worth the try. Trust me.

Below I have listed 7 scientifically proven benefits of practicing gratitude daily from Psychology Today.

Here are 7 scientifically proven benefits:

  1. Gratitude opens the door to more relationships – Not only does saying “thank you” constitute good manners, but showing appreciation can help you win new friends, according to a 2014 study published in Emotion. The study found that thanking a new acquaintance makes them more likely to seek an ongoing relationship. So whether you thank a stranger for holding the door or send a thank-you note to that colleague who helped you with a project, acknowledging other people’s contributions can lead to new opportunities.
  2. Gratitude improves physical health – Grateful people experience fewer aches and pains and report feeling healthier than other people, according to a 2012 study published in Personality and Individual Differences. Not surprisingly, grateful people are also more likely to take care of their health. They exercise more often and are more likely to attend regular check-ups, which is likely to contribute to further longevity.
  3. Gratitude improves psychological health – Gratitude reduces a multitude of toxic emotions, from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. Robert Emmons, a leading gratitude researcher, has conducted multiple studies on the link between gratitude and well-being. His research confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression.
  4. Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression – Grateful people are more likely to behave in a prosocial manner, even when others behave less kindly, according to a 2012 study by the University of Kentucky. Study participants who ranked higher on gratitude scales were less likely to retaliate against others, even when given negative feedback. They experienced more sensitivity and empathy toward other people and a decreased desire to seek revenge.
  5. Grateful people sleep better –  Writing in a gratitude journal improves sleep, according to a 2011 study published in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being. Spend just 15 minutes jotting down a few grateful sentiments before bed, and you may sleep better and longer.
  6. Gratitude improves self-esteem – A 2014 study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that gratitude increased athletes’ self-esteem, an essential component to optimal performance. Other studies have shown that gratitude reduces social comparisons. Rather than becoming resentful toward people who have more money or better jobs—a major factor in reduced self-esteem—grateful people are able to appreciate other people’s accomplishments.
  7. Gratitude increases mental strength – For years, research has shown gratitude not only reduces stress, but it may also play a major role in overcoming trauma. A 2006 study published in Behavior Research and Therapy found that Vietnam War veterans with higher levels of gratitude experienced lower rates of post-traumatic stress disorder. A 2003 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that gratitude was a major contributor to resilience following the terrorist attacks on September 11. Recognizing all that you have to be thankful for —even during the worst times—fosters resilience.

We all have the ability and opportunity to cultivate gratitude. Rather than complain about the things you think you deserve, take a few moments to focus on all that you have. Developing an “attitude of gratitude” is one of the simplest ways to improve your satisfaction with life.

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10 Ways to Feel Happier and Calmer

Have you ever sat and thought to yourself “damn, I’ve been through a lot of shit”? Have you had those “wow” moments? I have and over the years I have learned strategies that helped me to remain happier and calmer everyday no matter what problems I’m facing at the moment. I have those days that no negative individual can dim my light.

A lot of times I would see people or friends of mine getting upset, making other individuals ruin their day. But the thing is I use to be that person. I am no longer affected by the negativity of others and it took a bit of trying to understand others and wondering if these negative individuals really deserve my energy. And I have realized that anything or anyone that costs you your peace of mind is too expensive. Let them go!

Today I will share with you 10 ways to make you feel happier and calmer

10 Ways To Feel Happier and Calmer

Let’s face it we all have those days in our life where we feel down, sad or unhappy especially when things are not going our way.

  1. Recognize you are trying your best you can and that is all you can expect from yourself
  2. Keep a daily journal and count your blessings – Countless research and studies have indicated that recording a daily journal can be helpful of keeping track of your thoughts and feelings, its a way to improve yourself.
  3. Have an attitude of gratitude – What this means is to be grateful for everything and everyone in your life no matter how small count everything you were blessed with. For example, family, friends, health, life, just be grateful for everything. I personally practice gratitude everyday regardless of what problem I’m facing at the moment. If I’m feeling down I sit back relax and think about what I have accomplished in my life, I think about how blessed I am to have a wonderful, supportive family I instantly feel better.
  4. Take 5 – 10 minutes out of your day to meditate or just sit in silence – Mediation is always good, I do it everyday. For me I always need to take a break from people for a while. I take this time to allow myself time to relax and refresh.
  5. Practice Mindfulness – I did a blog some time ago on the use of mindfulness while doing household chores. Some people were like “this will never help me I hate chores”. I teach clients to use mindfulness in any simple task around the home. Hate doing the dishes? Use a dishwashing liquid with lime or lemon fragrance and concentrate and focus on the activity that you are doing. Mindfulness can be used for anything even when you are just simply taking a shower.
  6. Spend time with close friends and family – Spending time with friends and family is always good. Positivity is contagious it will make you feel happier and calmer. Negativity is also contagious, people who are negative can also make you feel depressed and unhappy so it’s important that you associate yourself with positive individuals. Ever heard the saying “when a negative person leaves your life is like the trash took itself out”. When you are no longer surrounded by negative people you instantly feel better, refreshed, happier you start gaining back positive energy you lost when this person was in your life.
  7. If or when you need support don’t be afraid to ask – A lot of people maybe going through difficult times in their lives and are afraid to ask for support. If in any event you need support don’t be afraid to ask. You are not superwoman or superman sometimes certain situations in your life require support to be at better pace or point in your life. Sometimes life can knock you down., we all have problems no one is exempted from having problems, sometimes the support system is what gets you through a difficult time.There is no shame in needing support from others.
  8. Take care of your health, exercise, eat well, sleep well and drink lots of water – Have you ever heard the saying “your health is your wealth without it you have nothing”? Exercise releases endorphins and endorphins make you happy. Eat nutritious food, limit your intake of refined carbohydrates, limit sugary foods and drinks, also, you can never go wrong with drinking water. Sleep is very important for your physical and mental health, when you are rested you think better, you feel better, lack of sleep can set off a whole number of issues. It’s important to take good care of yourself. For more on sleep deprivation you can check out my blog on Cognitive functions that fail due to lack of sleep.
  9. When dealing with problem give it 20 percent and give 80 percent to finding solutions – I have had problems like this in the past where I focus mostly on the problem ignoring possible solutions because when we are faced with issues in our lives our attention seems to be focused on the problem at hand. Focusing on the problem would not fix the problem rather it will only make you feel worst, depressed, frustrated etc. When faced with a problem instead of worrying try to find some possible solutions always remember to stay focused on solving the issue.
  10. Let go of situations, people and events you cannot control – Learn to let go of situations and people you have no control over. As difficult as it is to accept, we have no control over the behavior of others their actions etc but yet we try so hard to get them to change, when we try to do this we tend to feel frustrated, and unhappy when things are not going our way. Think of how difficult it is for you to change a bad habit and then you would realize how little control you have over others’ ability to change. You cannot change anyone but you can control your reaction to them or the situation. This will help you to feel happier and calmer. Accept others as they are and move on..

Any questions, queries or concerns with regards to mental illness please feel free to leave a comment or send me an email.


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