The disordered Brain of a Narcissist

Interestingly enough this week I have decided to look into the brain of a Narcissist, a couple days ago I was asked if there is something is wrong with the brain of a Narcissist? Research has clearly indicated possible brain abnormalities, in persons with NPD.

Have you ever wondered if something is wrong with the brain of a Narcissist?

Here is your answer:

People who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder, which is characterized by extreme arrogance and self-absorption, have structural abnormalities in a region of the brain that has been linked to empathy, a new study finds.

Researchers used magnetic resonance imaging to scan the brains of 34 people, including 17 individuals who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder, and found that pathological narcissists have less gray matter in a part of the cerebral cortex called the left anterior insula. Gray matter is primarily composed of neuron cell bodies and non-neuron brain cells that provide nutrients and energy to neurons, rather than sending and receiving information.

Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder suffer from low self-esteem and feelings of inferiority, while also projecting displays of arrogance and vanity, according to the American Psychiatric Association.

One of the key traits of pathological narcissists is their clear lack of empathy. The left anterior insula region of the brain, which is thought to be involved with cognitive functioning and the regulation of emotion, has also been tied to the generation of compassion and empathy.

A region of interest for empathy, for the first time, researchers were able to show that it is structurally correlated in the brain.

The researchers found that the degree to which a person was able to exhibit empathy was tied to the volume of gray matter in the brain, both in the group of healthy individuals and among those with narcissistic personality disorder. The finding suggests that regardless of personality disorders, the left anterior insula plays an important role in feeling and expressing compassion.

Look out for my blog next week, I will be doing an article. What kind of empathy do Narcissists possess? What is the most dangerous kind of NPD?

Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

Below are 9 practices to overcome devastation caused Narcissistic abuse.


In order for the healing to commence, you need to put a protective shield around yourself. If you can physically get away, that is the best. Any memory of the narcissist will keep triggering the pain, slowing down your recovery. So, block them on your phone, email, all your social media, etc. Get rid of any memorabilia reminding you of them. And for goodness sake, do not stalk their profiles!

If you are unable to physically remove yourself from their environment, look into a technique called ‘grey rock.’ The ideas is that while you interact with the narc, you remain emotionally and mentally disengaged, giving them nothing to feed on. Even though you may be boiling inside, do not let them see that. Once you are alone, let it all out. Cry, scream, cuss. Whatever brings you relief.

Another form of a boundary to start practicing is learning how to say no. It will help you build true confidence. Your boundary is like a cell wall. It keeps nutrients in and toxicity out. Become very picky whom you let in.


During the time you’ve spent around the narcissist doing everything in your power to please and appease them, you’ve been exposed to a serious mental disorder. It is extremely unhealthy to the mind of an empath. We took it in by doing what we could to ‘understand’ them and walk in their shoes. Narcissists know this and take full advantage of this empathic trait.

Now it is time to let all that dark goo out for health and clarity to be restored. One of the best things you can do is externalize it. Write a Journal about what happened, talk to a trusted friend who ‘gets it,’ engage a therapist or a coach. Join a support group to connect with others who can relate to your experience. Externalizing will help chaotic, confused thoughts click into place restoring a semblance of order. It will help clear your slate from the debris.

Other forms of externalization include movement, such as dance, deep breathing, mind-body exercises like yoga, sweating, getting a massage. All this is helpful in metabolizing the toxic chemicals that have been generated during the devaluation and discard stages of the relationship


This step will begin to set your mind straight. You must accept the truth that this person was highly toxic and consciously hurt you. Realize you’ve been tricked, manipulated and abused! Your high pain threshold worked to your disadvantage, making them push you farther and farther with each abuse cycle. Seeing them as a reflection of you, obscured the warning signs and made them fly under your radar. Your best traits were used against you: empathy, desire to explore, openness, positive sociability, etcAnd finally, not realizing you were in a dirty game, you were outmaneuvered.

It was not your fault. Forgive yourself.


But you disregarded it. This is a step where we begin to take responsibility (not to be confused with self-blame!) and do a rational post-mortem analysis of what happened.

Maybe you got a feeling in your stomach at some point early in the relationship. Maybe some things they said just didn’t add up. Look at that and ask yourself why you disregarded your intuitive hints. Was it because you really wanted to make it work?


Taking a trip back to childhood is a necessary component of healing if we want lasting results. It will create a sense of inner cohesion, eliminate much unresolved pain and restore deeper connection to self-trust. The little one inside you needs your help. They need you to see them, hear them, love then and guide them.


There will be a long period of time where you will feel pulled towards the past. It is cognitive dissonance and trauma bond at work. It is a sign that there are still things you need to understand and emotions to process. It is absolutely necessary to continue this work, but instead of letting the past steal your present moments, set aside dedicated time to do just that.

Meanwhile, practice staying mindful in the present and thinking of the future you’d like to create for yourself. Resurrect your dreams, maybe even give them an upgrade. Having a sense of purpose in life and things to look forward to helps us overcome the pull of the trauma and launches us forward. Knowing your ‘why’ is a good place to start. It shifts you from being a victim to becoming the hero of your life.


Your, inner quiet voice is your best friend. Even, and especially, while you are in the midst of chaos and pain, it can help navigate you out of suffering. There are many reasons why we experienced narcissistic abuse. Many of those reasons were outside our control. The world is full of manipulative characters who live to fulfill their own agenda. Now it is time for you to take your destiny back in your hands.

You can practice listening to the voice by asking yourself: how do I feel now? If you are faced with a choice, always go with the inner feeling. If you feel relaxed and open, the answer is a yes. If you are on the fence, it is likely better to hold back.


Being in an abusive relationship made us constantly dwell in a state of hyper-vigilance, even if we were not aware of it. Even during the highs, the intensity of the relationship made it seem like we are on a roller coaster ride. Other times, we were walking on our tip-toes not to disturb the abuser.

All this overstimulated our sympathetic system, pumping chemicals of stress into our bloodstream. It is one of the reasons we were so exhausted while in the relationship.


Whether you get upset at yourself because you slipped up and fallen right back to the pit, or get frustrated that you are not making faster progress and instead crying again, please be kind to yourself. This healing requires deep work and deep work requires time.

Every one of us has different rhythms, has gone through different, though similar, experiences and therefore will need more or less time to heal. But know one thing, no matter how long it will take you, with persistence and commitment to yourself, you will get there. One step at a time. It is simply inevitable.

Biggest Liars Ranked By Zodiac Signs

We all know the saying “liar liar pants on fire” or whenever pinnochio told a lie his nose grew longer and longer. 

If you said that you never told a lie you would be lying! Amit it. We have all told lies, at some point in our lives. Lets face it no one expects someone to be 100% free from dishonesty all the time.

These 3 Zodiac Signs are the best liars of all: Scorpio, Gemini, and Aquarius.

Whether its their sun sign, rising sign, or Mercury sign, the lies that these zodiac signs are capable of telling could convince even the most skeptical people of us all.


They Can Cover Their Tracks No Matter What
A Scorpio is always taking note of everything and investigating every situation with the eye of a master manipulator. If they do something that’s not necessarily “ethical,” they’ve already plotted out every single angle of the lie they’re going to tell in order to avoid getting caught. In fact, they can create a lie that’s so detailed, three-dimensional, and possibly even supported by a well-constructed alibi, that they themselves have no trouble sticking by it.

Even if they’re ever caught in a lie, their ability to avoid admitting the truth for as long as they can is likely to convince even the most suspicious person of their absolute honesty. Crazily enough, you might even be surprised by their spot on this list.


They Know Exactly What You Want To Hear
A Gemini is the shapeshifter of the zodiac, and they can embody their lies so well that they might as well be nominated for an Oscar. Capable of transitioning into a different character at the drop of a hat, a Gemini can state any set of words and make them believable. Whether they agree with these words or not, a Gemini can trick their minds into believing that their statements are true. And if they believe their bullsh*t, why shouldn’t you?

In fact, if a Gemini wanted to, they could easily make everyone — even their enemies — adore them, all with their simple and effective talent for telling a brilliant lie. The deadliest Gemini is capable of changing their stance as easily as changing their outfit.


They Understand How To Control People
An Aquarius is known for being a protector of the community and a healer for the collective. However, their ability to instantly read a total stranger and size them up makes them especially effective at lying. Telling one intelligent lie after another in order to maintain control over the people that surround them, an Aquarius can easily make themselves ruler over any crowd.

Their lies can target your vulnerabilities and compliment your idea of comfort and safety, convincing you to trust every word they say. Their ego is deep and grandiose, although most would never know it because they’re too busy being charmed by the lies that an Aquarius can tell.

Join me on my quest while I try to link zodiac signs and particular personality traits!

Early Signs of Old Age

FORGETTING people’s names, groaning when you bend down and falling asleep in front of the TV are among the signs you’re getting old, according to a new study.

A poll of 2,000 adults also found needing an afternoon nap, finding it tricky to sit cross-legged and choosing comfort over style are indicators you’re getting on a bit.

Falling asleep after drinking or while watching TV.

Complaining more often, declaring you’re “gasping” for a cup of tea and feeling flattered when you get asked for ID when visiting a bar also made the list.

Other warnings you’re over the hill include preferring a night in with a board game, knowing your alcohol limit and struggling with technology.

From forgetfulness to joint pain.. the top 25 signs you’re getting old

  1. Forgetting people’s names
  2. Losing hair
  3. Feeling stiff
  4. Talking a lot about your joints/ailments
  5. Groaning when you bend down
  6. Not knowing any songs in the top ten
  7. Misplacing your glasses/ bag/ car keys etc
  8. Getting more hairy – ears, eyebrows, nose, face etc.
  9. Avoid lifting heavy things due to back concerns
  10. Saying ‘in my day’
  11. Finding it tricky to sit cross-legged on the floor
  12. Hating noisy pubs
  13. Choosing clothes and shoes for comfort rather than style
  14. Falling asleep in front of the TV every night
  15. Thinking policemen/teachers/doctors look really young
  16. Falling ill more often
  17. Saying “it wasn’t like that when I was young”
  18. Complaining about more things
  19. Needing an afternoon nap
  20. Feeling tired the moment you wake up
  21. Struggling to use technology
  22. Finding you have no idea what ‘young people’ are talking about
  23. Having colleagues who are so young they don’t know what a cassette tape is
  24. Losing touch with everyday technology such as tablets and TVs
  25. Complaining about the rubbish on television these days

Narcissism Ranked by Zodiac signs

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) here they are linked to the zodiac signs from the most Narcissistic to the least. Both men and women are ranked.

According to Sigmund Freud everyone has some form of narcissism, but it is considered troublesome or a disorder when it occurs after puberty and when the traits are at the extreme levels of narcissism.

Aries Men: Overt Narcissist

What is an Overt Narcissist?
Overt narcissism revolves around grandiosity. This type of personality seems self-sufficient and believes that they are entitled to achieve outstanding success. Such people demand everything on a grander scale. They also have intense ambitions regarding anything.
Aries men are without a doubt alpha males. They are leaders in their own right. They are extroverted, determined, and when provoked have explosive temperaments. As narcissists, Aries men tend to fall into the category of overt narcissism. Overt narcissists are classified as individuals with massive egos, with a constant need to be in control.

When things aren’t going their way, they can get verbally and even physically aggressive. These men do what they want, when they want and don’t feel remorse about how it might affect anyone else. When they lash out, don’t expect an apology then either. Overt narcissists are also very oppressive individuals. They’re the dominant ones, and everyone else is below them. Aries men are typically large and loud personalities, but add the overt narcissism to the mix and those qualities become over the top.

Aries Women: Phallic Narcissist

What is a Phallic Narcissist?
One who has a low sense of security. Phallic narcissist feel that the only people they can communicate with are people only as brilliant as they are. they tend to befriend people with gifts of intelligence only to extend there reputation.
Aries women are the take-charge kind of person. They have no problem taking initiative on tasks at hand and are the leaders of their lives. They’re always striving to better themselves and to reach their goals; which can sometimes lead to slightly impulsive behaviors, as they tend to jump head first into their latest schemes. As a narcissist, Aries women fall into the category known as a phallic narcissist.

Phallic narcissists are defined as determined, self-assured individuals, who are empowered by social success. These women want to do well, and they want everyone to know it. They’re elitist as they try to climb the social ladder to increase their image. Often they are self-promoting and constantly bragging about their latest achievement, but don’t let this fool you! Deep down they happen to be very sensitive, in which they seek admiration in order to overcompensate their insecurities.

Scorpio Men: Malignant Narcissist

What is a malignant narcissist?

Malignant narcissism is among the darkest proposed types of personality, combining both traits of narcissism and antisocial behaviour with possible sadism.

Scorpio men are very passionate. While they may not always share how they are feeling these men do have intense emotions. They’re brave, passionate, stubborn, jealous and even violent. When it comes to their narcissistic tendencies Scorpio men belong in the Malignant Narcissist category.

This is perhaps one of the worst forms of narcissism as, unlike they other sub-groups of narcissists, malignant narcissists have some paranoid traits. This level of narcissism is extremely powerful and the more gratification they receive from their accomplishments the worse their narcissistic traits become. Malignant narcissists seek to have complete and utter control in all areas of their lives, including in relationships. They will do whatever it takes to maintain that control as well, so don’t get in their way. They don’t care about being liked, they only seek to dominate others, and receive their admiration.

Scorpio Women: Vindictive Narcissist

Never get on the bad side of a Scorpio woman! These women are usually fiercely loyal and protective; however, once you make an enemy out of her be warned. Scorpio women love to have control and will gain it through whatever means necessary, even if that means she will have to manipulate the situation a bit. Out of all the sub-types of narcissism, Scorpio women typically are Vindictive Narcissists.

They are classified as such due to their determination to get back at whoever had wronged them. Whether they’ve been wronged or someone simply tried to take over the power from them vindictive narcissist will set out to destroy them. They need to prove to you that you’re inferior to them. Nothing can appease these narcissists more than destroying and causing havoc in their targeted person’s life. Watch out for a vindictive Scorpio woman’s stinger, as these narcissists are highly aggressive and toxic!

Is Media Increasing The Stigma On Mental Illness?

Studies indicate that mass media is one of the public’s primary sources of information about disorders such as bipolar, schizophrenia and depression maybe the cause of this misperception.

The catch? Research also suggests most media portrayals of mental illness are stereotypical, negative or flat-out wrong – meaning many people gain an unfavorable or inaccurate view of those with psychological disorders simply by skimming a few sentences or picking up a remote control.

Studies show that not only are individuals with mental illness LESS likely to commit violent crimes, they’re actually more likely to be victimized. Still, many news outlets conflate mental illness with violence. When it comes to mental illness, the media tends to skew reality.

News media and stigma

From building fire to car crash to murder, the news media have been guilty of sensationalizing every type of news story to catch the attention of the reader or viewer. As the old saying in the news business goes, “If it bleeds, it leads.”

The sensationalized reporting of crimes involving people with a mental illness can hurt an entire group of people who have done nothing to deserve it.

The Media Is Perpetuating A Dangerous Myth About Mental Illness

It isn’t just your imagination: The news media disproportionately links mental illness and violent behavior, a new study found.

Researchers from Johns Hopkins University examined 400 random samples of news stories about mental illness over two decades. They found that more than a third of all news stories about mental health conditions were linked with violence toward other people.

This figure does not reflect the actual rates of interpersonal violence where mental illness is involved, according to the study’s authors. Data suggests only 3 to 5 percent of violent acts can be attributed to serious mental illness. But suggesting that mental health issues are a major factor in violence does create stigma for those who struggle with these illnesses.

“We have good research evidence that news media portrayals like this do create a stigma toward individuals with mental illness,” lead study author Emma McGinty, an assistant professor at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, told The Huffington Post. “But in reality, most violence is not caused by people with mental illness.”

7 Typical Fears Of A Narcissist

Check out this video on YouTube things that Narcissists are most scared of

  1. Relationship Commitment

Narcissists are often characterized by a failure or inability to pursue lasting, meaningful relationships. The reasons for this are pretty clear. To be in a relationship, you have to let your guard down, and this is something that narcissists are really afraid of. Being in a relationship means that your partner will get to know you, including all of your faults and embarrassments. For narcissists, letting people see these imperfections in their character can seem unthinkable, and even frightening.

2. Looking Deep Into Their Own Soul

One of the biggest things about narcissists is that they refuse to examine their own inadequacies and imperfections. Because of this, one of the things that scares them most is something right under their noses – themselves. They like to create this false idea of themselves as superior beings, but some part of them, subconscious or otherwise, knows that this is all a lie. That part of their mind is shielded away from them, but it’s always there. To look into this area of their mind would be to confront everything that is wrong with their personality, and it’s something that narcissists dread more than almost anything else. To be fair, this is something that a lot of people fear, not just narcissists.

3. Insults

Another thing narcissists really fear is being insulted. Narcissists are characterized by a hypersensitivity to insults, and the mere thought of being verbally abused can be a source of great fear for them. Hypersensitivity means that they experience the “sting” of being insulted much more than the average person. While a normal person might be hurt and saddened by an insult, they’ll probably get over it in a matter of days or even hours. Narcissists on the other hand will feel insults as a crushing blow to their already fragile self-esteem, and they’ll brood and sulk over it for weeks on end. They might even never get over it (depending on the insult), or even plot some kind of revenge to get back at the person who insulted them.

4. Shame

Another thing that narcissists really fear is shame. They really value their place in society, and they like to think that people hold them in high regard. But it’s an interesting point to make that narcissists fear shame, not guilt. Guilt would imply that they feel bad about hurting someone’s feelings, or doing the wrong thing. It’s widely accepted that true narcissists are incapable of feeling these emotions, because they find it impossible to put themselves in other people’s shoes. Shame is much more daunting to narcissists, because this implies them being singled out by their community or friends and given a lower status. People who are shamed are sometimes shunned or even exiled from a society. Since narcissists value their pride and their standing in society so dearly, tasting the bitter feeling of shame and a wounded ego can be one of the most dreaded experiences for them.

5. Lack Of Admiration From Others

Narcissists feed heavily on the admiration of others. Without other people, they are nothing. That’s why one of the biggest fears for narcissists is the complete lack of admiration from others. This is not quite as feared as being shamed by others, but it’s very close. Some people don’t mind feeling like they’re invisible. They’re totally okay with walking down the hallways or the street with no one paying them any attention. But for narcissists, even the thought of this happening is like a nightmare to them. It’s that feeling of total irrelevance and unimportance that frightens narcissists so much.

6. Feeling Remorse

Another key characteristic of narcissism is the incapacity to feel remorse. It’s not just that they can’t feel remorse, it’s that they actively refuse to show remorse. This fierce rejection of the very notion of feeling bad about hurting others is indicative of a very deep fear. It’s a total denial of remorse. And why do they fear remorse so much? It’s simple. To them, remorse is a characteristic of weakness. Remorse, to them, shows vulnerability and emotional frailty. And to feel remorse is to open yourself up to that weakness. Remorse is also in its basest form the acceptance that you have made a mistake.

7. Feeling Gratitude

Another feeling that these people reject and fear is gratitude. Gratitude, like remorse, is another emotion that is perceived as a sign of weakness by people who are narcissistic. To these people, gratitude is in a sense giving other people power over yourself. It’s the acceptance that you owe something to someone. It also forces you to come to terms with the fact that you might have needed someone else’s help. To narcissistic people, they think of themselves as these all-powerful beings that rise far above others in superiority. The acceptance that someone else did something valuable for them brings them crashing back down to earth.