Cognitive Distortions [Part One]

Ever wondered how these negative thoughts, feelings keeps popping up in you head? We all have fallen prey to cognitive distortions. You know the thing is that our brain is wired in such a way as to alert us from danger, attract us to potential partners and find solutions to problems we encounter in our daily lives. Which is a good thing in my opinion and I believe others would agree with this as well. As humans we trust what’s going on in our brains, our brain wouldn’t lead us astray right? Well it so happens that in some situations, we may second guess what our “Mind” is telling us. Is not that our brain is leading us astray or it’s purposely lying to us, it’s just that overtime our brain have possibly developed faulty connections.

It’s not surprising that our brains can create faulty connections. It is because our brain are predisposed to making connections between various thoughts, ideas, actions and consequences, even if it’s true or not.

I will share with you one of my favorite quotes: Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening – by Lisa M. Hayes. When your self-talk is negative your brain is actively paying attention, which can create distortions in your thoughts, you are what you tell yourself everyday. When you keep thinking negative your brain picks up on this. Always make sure that your self-talk is positive as your mind is listening, you should feed it love, kindness and positive vibes.

What Are Cognitive Distortions?

Cognitive distortions are biased perspectives we take on ourselves and the world around us. They are irrational thoughts and beliefs that we unknowingly reinforce over time. These patterns and systems of thought are often subtle, which makes it difficult to recognize when they are a regular feature of our day-to-day thoughts. That is why our thoughts can be so damaging and it’s hard to change what you don’t recognize as something that needs to change!

All cognitive distortions come in many forms and they all seem to have these three things in common:

  • Tendencies or patterns of thinking or believing
  • That are false or inaccurate;
  • Have the potential to cause psychological damage.

There are many forms of cognitive distortions which I will break down in the following blog post. This is to make sure you all don’t get bored.

Any questions queries or concerns please feel free to leave a comment below, I will love to hear you thoughts.


Commonly Used Treatments For Personality Disorders

Personality disorders are difficult conditions to treat. As well as the stigma that goes along with it. I have heard many people saying that there are no treatment available for persons diagnosed with personality disorders and its hopeless. This is far from the truth, there are a variety of treatment that may aid in the treatment of personality disorders. There are ten types of personality disorders listed in the DSM. In the DSM-5 personality disorders are grouped into three clusters based on descriptive similarities.

3 Clusters Of Personality Disorders

  • Cluster A Personality disorders – Paranoid (PPD), Schizoid (SPD), Schizotypal
  • Cluster B Personality disorders- Antisocial (ASPD) could be psychopaths, sociopaths, Borderline (BPD), Histrionic (HPD) Narcissistic (NPD)
  • Cluster C Personality disorders – Avoidant (APD), Dependent (DPD), Obsessive-compulsive (OCPD)

Treatment Available For Personality Disorders

There are certain types of psychotherapy that are effective for treating personality disorders. During psychotherapy, an individual can gain insight and knowledge about the disorder and what is contributing to symptoms, and can talk about thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Psychotherapy can help a person understand the effects of their behavior on others and learn to manage or cope with symptoms and to reduce behaviors causing problems with functioning and relationships. The type of treatment will depend on the specific personality disorder, how severe it is, and the individual’s circumstances.

Commonly Used Types Of Psychotherapy

  • Psychoanalytic/psychodynamic therapy
  • Dialectical behavior therapy
  • Cognitive behavioral therapy
  • Group therapy
  • Psychoeducation (teaching the individual and family members about the illness, treatment and ways of coping)
  • Psychoanalytic/psychodynamic therapy
  • Dialectical behavior therapy
  • Cognitive behavioral therapy
  • Group therapy
  • Psychoeducation (teaching the individual and family members about the illness, treatment and ways of coping)

Other Forms Of Treatment

There are no medications specifically to treat personality disorders. However, medication, such as antidepressants, anti-anxiety medication or mood stabilizing medication, may be helpful in treating some symptoms. More severe or long lasting symptoms may require a team approach involving a primary care doctor, a psychiatrist, a psychologist, social worker and family members.

Any questions, queries or concerns please feel free to comment below I would love to hear your thoughts.


When You’re Feeling Sad or Upset Remember These 6 Points

We can’t help it, we’re human, we have emotions and many times we are faced with situations that maybe beyond our control and we may feel sad for example the loss of a loved one, or a failed relationship, been hurt by someone we love etc. This is all part of life. Nothing is wrong with feeling sad and it’s not a sign of weakness either it’s a sign that you are human. Generally sadness affects all of us at some point in our lives, at both behavioral and physiological levels. Outward behaviors such as crying, sobbing, and temporary social isolation are common characteristics of sadness. While feeling sad for a certain period of time isn’t particularly harmful but what if sadness is prolonged then it maybe a cause for concern. So for my blog today I have listed six points to remember when you’re feeling sad.


Sadness is considered to be one of the basic human emotions and it is a natural response to situations involving psychological, emotional, and/or physical pain. Sad feelings often quickly diminish after individuals resolve or come to terms with upsetting experiences. Sadness is often linked with unfavorable circumstances, however, it is not always perceived in a negative light. While sadness can lead to withdrawal from other people or a loss of interest in certain activities, it can also prompt pleasure-seeking behaviors. In fact, positive personality traits such as alertness, thoughtfulness, and resilience can be fostered through sad experiences.

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6 Points To Remember When You’re Feeling Sad

  1. Pain is part of growing – Pain is part of growing. Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. This is a good thing because many times we won’t move forward unless certain circumstances forces us to. When times are tough, always remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it t taught you.
  2. Everything in life is temporary – Emotions, thoughts, people and scenery. Do not get attached, just flow with it.” The only thing that’s truly permanent in this life is change. Things already changed in the few moments it took you read this sentence. From the time, to the clouds outside and perhaps even your mood.
  3. Worrying and complaining changes nothing – So, if you keep your mind looping on self-criticism, worries, and how nothing is working out for you, your mind will more easily find that part of your brain and will quickly assist you in thinking those same thoughts again. This shapes your mind into greater reactivity, making you more vulnerable to anxiety. 
  4. Your scars are symbols of your strength – Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars life has left you with. A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward.
  5. Every little struggle is a step forward – Every struggle no matter how small is a step forward In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it.
  6. Other people’s negativity is not your problem – Sometimes you may genuinely be in a situation when, due to no apparent fault of yours, the other person is negative, indifferent, a little too critical, a bit too insensitive and so forth. If you know how to deal with such people and tackle situations like these, your state of inner joy and peace will remain unaffected.

Any questions, queries or concerns please feel free to comment below, I would love to hear your thoughts.


We Can Sense Negative Energy In Others

I’m sure a lot of you saw the headline in my post and immediately associated sensing negative ENERGY with PSYCHIC energy. Then this thought came to your mind: No one can sense negative energy or positive energy, what are you talking about?. Everyday I meet lovely people, either in person, social media or on different platforms from various walks of life. I was placed in the top 10 most viewed writers in Psychiatry last December, 2019 a title that I’m very proud of. I love being able to use what I have learned to help others.

Today’s blog post is about the ability to pick up negative energy from persons with negative or toxic personalities. Negative energy is toxic and can drain you both mentally and physically. Have you ever been around someone whose conversations are mostly negative? Every time you speak with them or are around them you either feel depressed, down or sad. You may not have sensed that this person is carrying around negative energy but somehow when you are with them you don’t feel comfortable at all. This is the kind of energy senses I am speaking about, although some people feel it more than others sometimes even immediately after coming in contact with these people so I have gathered a list to help them.

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Stay Away From Negative People.

I always advise people to keep away from negative people, as they are likely to give off negative energy in the way they talk to you, the way they treat you, and the way they behave towards you. Negative people can drain you both mentally and physically. Some people have the ability to sense others energy in others, whether it’s negative or positive energy sometimes they are unable to tune out and needs assistance to be able to find balance.

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6 Signs You’re Energy Sensitive:

Scientists have long been skeptical about the subject, but it seems the first evidence of the perception of good and bad energy is slowly emerging. The study of human chemosignaling is a relatively new field and there is much we still don’t know.

You are energy sensitive if you:

1. Have deep empathy for others: 

You can often spot the most energy sensitive person in the room when there is someone around who is hurt or upset.  Energy sensitive people are often the “first responders,” there to hold a hand, give a hug or lend a listening ear.  Energy sensitive people often feel other people’s emotions (and sometimes their physical pain too), and so they easily understand and empathize with people who are suffering. 

2. Emotional rollercoasters: 

Having a keen sense of vibrational energy often means that the high times feel very high but the low times feel very low.  Having some plans in place to help you raise your vibration can be very helpful,  especially during low times!

3. Addictions:  

Being energy sensitive means you “feel” a lot more than many people.  To avoid feeling low vibrational energy, these individuals may lean on substances like drugs or alcohol in order to numb out the pain of negative sensory input.  They may also have a proclivity for other types of addictions, like food, gambling or shopping.

4. Being an excellent judge of character:  

Energy sensitive people are often very aware of other people’s motivations, and many times they can “just tell when” someone is bad news.  This can be a very beneficial trait, as it makes one less likely to be conned or taken advantage of.

5. Possible introversion:  

Not all sensitive folks are introverts, but many often are.  It can be overwhelming to take on the emotions and feelings of other people, and so often energy sensitive people withdraw and seek alone time in order to stabilize. They are often likely to feel drained after prolonged social interactions.

6. Receiving signs:  

People who are sensitive to energy are much more likely to be aware of the signs the universe is sending to them.  They are more likely to find meaning in events and circumstances that most other people see as simply “coincidental.” 

As you can see, being energy sensitive is a bit of a double-edged sword.  Being attuned to vibrational energy allows one to have a deeper understanding of the universe, but it also can lead to a degree of overstimulation, and this can cause a variety of problems if left unaddressed.

If you think you may be energy sensitive, there are a number of things you can do harness the power of your gifts and cope with the struggles of sensitivity. Be mindful of the people you surround yourself with, and allow yourself to step away from toxic people, events and circumstances when you are feeling overwhelmed.  It is also very important to work toward self-acceptance, and learn how to love yourself and your gifts.

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Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Subtypes

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a condition where a person experiences a very traumatic event and their mental health thereafter suffers tremendously. These people have intense feelings of horror, fear and helplessness. A person with post-traumatic stress disorder can become so overwhelmed with intense feelings of despair that they may have trouble getting on with their normal life.

In most cases, a person with post-traumatic stress disorder was involved in or witnessed a traumatizing event. Some common examples of a traumatic experience include the death of a loved one, being diagnosed with a serious health condition and witnessing something traumatizing happening to another person. Traumatic events can include war, rape, molestation, a horrific car accident and being involved in a natural disaster like a flood or fire.

PTSD Subtypes:

  1. Victim-related trauma: People with this type of PTSD were either witnesses of a criminal attack, or they were the victims of the attack. That attack might involve physical violence, such as a beating or a fight, or it might involve sexual abuse, including rape. Robberies, carjackings, kidnappings, and terrorist attacks can also spark this form of trauma.
  2. Natural-disaster trauma:Earthquakes, tornadoes, hurricanes, and flooding are rarely caused by human intervention. They take place due to a natural process over which humans have very little control; however, these incidents can leave behind dozens if not thousands of victims. While the event unfolds, people may fear for their lives and the lives of the people they love. Survivors may have this form of PTSD.
  3. Survivor trauma: Some incidents that spark PTSD involve one victim and one antagonist, but sometimes, the event has more than one victim. And sometimes, only one person survives the incident. When that happens, people might have a very specific form of PTSD that is tied to the fact that they lived through the event while others did not.
  4. Perpetrator guilt: Most forms of PTSD involve the thoughts and feelings of a person who was helpless in the face of fear, but people in this subtype had at least something to do with the event. They may have planned it and participated in it, while realizing that they made a terrible mistake. Or they may have been caught up in the moment, and then realized the error days or months later.
  5. PTSD not otherwise specified: Some traumatic events come with ripples that can touch people hours or days after the issue has been resolved. These people might clean up after tornadoes, collect bodies from crime scenes, comfort rape victims, or listen to their loved ones discuss a traumatic event. These people were not direct witnesses, but they can be profoundly touched by the things they experience in the aftermath of the event.

Warnings of PTSD:

  • Common PTSD symptoms can emerge right after a traumatic occurrence. But in most cases, they typically start within six months following the experience.
  • PTSD can cause people to lose interest in things that they once found enjoyable.
  • Children with PTSD can worry about not living long enough to see adulthood.
  • Often people who struggle with PTSD suffer from depression, eating disorders and substance abuse.
  • Just witnessing or hearing about a traumatic experience of a close friend or family member can cause a person to develop PTSD.

Any questions, queries or concerns please feel free to comment below or send me an email I would love to hear you thoughts.


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